QUOTES I LOVE! GENDER POLICING by SON OF BALDWIN

Heterosexuals gender police because they want you to 

be just like them.

 Homosexuals gender police to prove to heterosexuals 

that they can be just like them.

AMEN! AMEN! AMEN!

MARIAH CAREY E=MC2

I don't know why but this album kicked up in my spirit and I just had to play it!

I actually didn't know how much I loved this album.

M.C. had some really good hits on this album!

Oh the joy this album is bringing to me as I type this. 

My Favorites:

Cruise Control

Side Effects

I'm That Chick

Migrate

Touch My Body

I Wish You Well

Thanx 4 Nothin

I Stay In Love

O.O.C.

SO IS YOUR EGO BRUISED OR WHAT?! ALL BECAUSE I'M ASSERTIVE LIKE YOU!

Ok, I've dated a few guys were they could not quite understand or accept me. (read: handle or put up with lol)

All because cute, [meek, and mild - perceived crap about me]

(SARCASM) little TJ is ASSERTIVE!

Me and him dated/psuedo relationship for an entire year between 08-09 and it ended quite ugly because he thought I was trying to out him! Which I totally was not. That's not my place at all. Anyway, that's a whole 'nother post.

Anyway, he hit me up months ago wanting to re-connect. 

I've forgiven him, me and moved on.

I see no problem with extending friendship to him.

Clearly, he wants more but he hasn't grown enough (read: self-awareness of himself) for me to even think about giving him that chance again. 

So a few days ago we were having a conversation about laws, police officers, the system, social justice.

And basically my point was that police offices has ruined their relationship with the ppl! There is a definite amount of mistrust in black communities with police officers. In my opinion, they protect the laws and not the people. Most police officers have no humility, integrity, nor compassion when doing their job. But we do have ALOT of egotistical assholes, who think they can walk on water, and just abuse their power and authority. 

Well, he did not agree with my stance of course. I was not talking about him! This was just my general position. His words, were 'fuck social justice and those ppl they aren't the ones putting their lives on the line everyday'.

Granted, I agree to SOME extent and respect those officers but that is not reality.

 Do not agree on fuck social justice and ppl who are trying to bring justice to everyone.

Honestly, I don't think that's his honest opinion! I do believe he just said that because my statement made him mad but hey that could be true given his history.

Since that debate he has not called or texted me...and usually he texts me everyday. 

I just find that hilarious!

This is his typical fashion every time we have different views on the world around us.

For some reason, he can not take the fact that I confidently voice my opinions, make no apologies about it, and back them up. 

Times when we were together and we disagreed on something.

He had the NERVE to say that "I am the man! So I am right!"

And he would always use his age as leverage. [Older age doesn't always equate to wisdom. read: I don't give 2 fucks if your 10yrs older than me. I still think your logic is greatly FLAWED!]

LMAO! Like, what the hell is that?!

*looks down*

I have a dick between my legs, as well pimp!

And no matter, if I'm receiving or giving I will be respected!

For some of yall, that may have made your dick hard. "Ooh, my man putting me in my place"

For me, that's a big HELL NO! 

We aren't heteros! [And if we were it STILL would NOT be right!]

Save the sexist misogynistic views for those who love em. (Not knocking same-sex couples who like hetero-normative relationships, but that right there is just too much for muah!)

It's funny because all the time he would tell me that my mouth is going to make men dislike me!

That I need to control my mouth!

I suppose being straightforward and calling out his BS in his behavior and attitude regarding our relationship didn't help either, huh? LOL

I am by no means a Tamar Braxton, from Braxton Family Values.

Just a fabulous guy who stands up and firm in my beliefs, views, and values.

And quite accepting of others' views, beliefs, and values! Shit, I am a liberal to certain extents!

There was another guy I dated sometime after him that didn't like my assertiveness either.

He would often call me an overachieving, stuck up bitch! (Just last week [not literal], I was a forward thinker, strong, and sexy and you just gotta have me on your team.)

One of my exs (we are just friends now) put it perfectly.

He said, "They don't know TJ Harris.  You ain't like them other 'bottoms' out there. You're not gonna sit there and laugh and giggle and agree with everything they say and you will let it be known! Shit, I like that you do that. You a man too and not a doll. If those dudes you talking to can't handle that then you need to cut 'em loose."

And that's exactly what I'm doing from here to infinity!

I do not have time for that mess! If you want to be with ME! I need to have the freedom to be just that!

TJ!

So if I can't freely voice my opinion just as you can "Mr.MasculineTopMan" (sarcasm) then please keep it moving! 

So what was up with him y'all?

Please, leave your thoughts!

MY THOUGHTS: BEYONCE'S 4 BALLADS

After give this album another listen those damn ballads MOVED me!

Like, I really like these bitches!

I find myself going back and hitting repeat. 

True Verdict: Beyonce' has created a great body of artistic work all around.

Literally, everything that I thought was weak is not anymore and the album makes sense now.

MY THOUGHTS: NAIL PAINTING

Now, I know some gays my like or even love this.

But tonight I painted my sister nails since she couldn't finish.

And.

This is the most tedious thing.

Shit. It's hard work. Getting those lines all straight and smooth.

But this damn near irritated me. LOL

My name is TJ and 

I am one less gay that

DO.NOT.LIKE.

painting nails! 

....Facials (not the X-Rated version y'all) now those are the bees knees ^_^

NFL PLAYER THOUGHTS ON GAY MARRIAGE

I saw this post over at NecoleBitchie.com (one of my fav blogs) - LINK

Reading this gave me a headache.

Anyway, this comment for the comments section is exactly what I feel about his comments.

"I disagree. Marriages are disrespected everyday by men and women. There is no longer “sanctity” in Marriage. People step out and have affairs, people divorce and you have to explain that to your kids so… People also get married in Vegas just for “fun” —some may say this is completely different than Gay Marriage but where’s the sanctity in that?

He said:

Marriage is one of those things that are the backbone of society. If you redefine it, it changes the way we educate our children, it changes the perception of what is good, what is right, and what is just.

Yes, you can educate your children that all people are not the same. Certain things you may not like but as a society we will not pass judgment on them. You can teach your kids to be more open-mined and to accept all types of people for who they are.

Gay marriage does not send a message that you don’t need a mother or father. Gay marriage sends a message that though we are not a “conventional couple” they still love the same way a man and woman does.

He is right when he says two men won’t be able to show a girl how to be a woman BUT how do single fathers teach their daughters how to be women? They may turn to a relative or friend to help them out. A gay couple can do the same. I often think if people are worried that if a gay couple raises a child will that child become gay.. I’m not sure of that answer and I think that would have to be observed in a large pool of gay couples raising kids but that’s not the issue here. We’re talking about Marriage.

I just think that all people should have the same rights. All people should be able to express their love for each other whether it’s a man & woman, man & man, or woman & woman. He made some interesting points and I respect that. I’m glad he didn’t JUST come with “Well the Bible” like so many people do. I use to jump down people’s throats for saying Gay marriage is wrong. I’ve learned to listen to both sides and try to understand where ppl are coming from…But I stand firm on my thoughts and I believe there’s nothing wrong with it." - Commenter, Amana Ethopia

MY THOUGHTS: MARSHA AMBROSIUS - LATE NIGHTS & EARLY MORNINGS

Ms. Marsha Ambrosius is back at it once again!

The song is HOT!

But the video leaves you with a great message!

Always practice safe sex!

For those who haven't seen her phenomenal video for "Far Away"

Please check it out below

She's one of the 1st if not the 1st artist to talk about black gay love and being open 

And how not being accepted by one's community affects an individual.